Is Your Relationship for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime? by Jules Andersen

Is Your Relationship for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

I have always been a person who wants to keep those I love for a lifetime. I have since learned, this may be impossible as people grow and evolve - sometimes together - sometimes apart.

For a reason

When someone’s in our life for a REASON, it’s usually to meet a need your soul has expressed. They’ve come to assist you through a difficulty, provide you with guidance and support, and aid you physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they usually are. They’re there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away without any communication or explanation. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, and their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. This has been a painful process in my life, but a necessary one. We can not all grow together.

For a season

Some people come into our life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you’ve never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it’s real. But only for a season. It’s fun to spot these people and know it’s only temporary.

For a lifetime

LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons - things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you’ve learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

These people will be direct and tell us the truth. They will be willing to have conflict with us. They will do this because they love us so much - and they love themselves. They are bold and brave. They are my favorite kind of relationship.

Thank you

Thank you all for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance in this life of forming relationships ...

I hope you dance like no one is watching!