Do you know that every word we speak carries a frequency and a vibration? Even words not spoken carry a vibration that can impact your other senses. They can be felt by others around you. The vibration can cause you to sense heavy or light, cold or hot, Sharp or dull. The vibration can lift you up, or shut you down.

Notice when you are speaking to others - or even in your thoughts - when you say the words, “I have to (fill in the blank)”. Notice how your body feels, notice the energy of “having to do something.” Does it feel heavy or light?

Now I want you to change your words to “I want to, or I get to (fill in the blank).” And notice how this feels in your body.

Having to do something puts you in the stance of Victim energy. You are a slave to the requests of others. Can you feel it? Can you sense this heavy burden?

When you want to do something or you get to do something, notice how much power you have in taking charge. Doesn’t it feel lighter and more powerful already?

This is how we make an EMPOWERED decision. We think about it, talk through it with ourselves or with others, and choose our decision confidentiality.

I use the analogy of driving down the middle of the road. If you are on a four lane highway, and I ask you to drive over the white line for one full mile, notice how you feel while doing it. Notice your thoughts of “Am I going to crash into someone, am I going to get a ticket, will people think I’m drunk?” And notice how all these thoughts cause anxiety.

Now pick a lane and get into it. Notice your body relax. Notice your mind quiet. Now drive in this lane for one full mile.

Now, decide to change into another lane and drive in this chosen lane for a mile. Doesn’t it feel great?

This shows you that driving down the middle of the road is equal to not making an empowered decision. There are always doubts or the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” thinking - always thinking that the decision you are making should be something different - it’s very anxiety producing AND you don’t fully get to enjoy the decision you made.

Picking a lane and driving in it feels good. As we drive in this lane - or practice the decision we make, we get our lessons from our decision and we become our own experiment in the process. We GET TO learn for ourselves and choose whatever lane we want to drive in - knowing we can change lanes at any time. Fluid. Always.

When we are afraid of making a bad decision, this fear creates anxiety. We are afraid our decision will hurt us, or hurt another or turn out badly for us.

We can not live life afraid of hurting ourselves or others . This will keep us in fear and anxiety - and not living our full truth - looking to take care of or please others.

Even if we get hurt or hurt others unintentionally, these lessons are gifts.

Breathe into it and say thank you for this gift.