Self-Love is a term that has gotten very trendy. What does it mean exactly?

We have all heard “you can’t love someone else unless you love yourself.”

The reason I KNOW this is is true is because when I love myself, I speak to myself very nicely. Like I would speak to a friend or a lover. And i develop emotional safety and trust within myself.

I take myself for walks, work out with a trainer, practice Yoga, feed myself with yummy foods, don’t over eat and make myself sick, get massages, drink a ton of water, have a great skin care routine, take supplements daily, lather myself with great smelling fragrances and lotions, get good sleep, I go on hikes, wear clothes that make me feel sexy - lots of self-care items that are loving and caring for myself.

I have more too - I meditate and relax my mind. I take Epson salts baths and sprinkle lavender or peppermint oils in the water and soak. I get manicures and pedicures. I swim in the ocean or lounge in the jacuzzi. I stimulate my mind with books and music. I dance as much as I can. I sit on my patio and listen to the wind chimes and look at the beautiful trees. I sing karaoke. I take classes that continue my learning.

I also attend live comedy, concerts, shoot pool, make plans with friends, attend spiritual retreats and plant medicine ceremonies.

Additionally - I call friends and laugh my ass off. And communicate well.

AND - I set boundaries that come from of place of loving myself so much that I take care of my heart of soul to the best of my ability.

I have realized in my 59 years and my 35+ year career that Self Love, Self Acceptance and Self Care may be THE most important energies to embody to live a life that is valuable and worth it! Stop the war within.

So this Valentines Day, treat yourself like you would treat your lover, your child, your partner, your best friend - with so much expression of love, gratitude, admiration and support that your soul feels it at a deep level. With this practice, you will ooze love, gratitude, admiration and support to others.

The best Valentines present one can experience.

I love you - I love me!